08 Mitsu Outlander w/ STD key RS

2008 Mitsubishi Outlander Standard key using: Valet 562T / 556U/W bypass I am using a Valet RS/Keyless but any generic module would suffice for my question. DEI 556U/W bypass module. Q 1. Am I ok using the small wires at the fuse box instead of the small at the ignition switch plug and do I need to actually cut the started wire or is tapping the output side of the high power relay to the small starter wire ok? Q 2. I am having issues with the transponder ring ( it is way too big) should I cut it and just tap the wires at the plug instead? I'm worried about cutting and splicing the wrong wires. ( I also don't have the 4 wire plug that I think interfaces the Valet 562 -> 566 so I am just tapping the - remote state wire, if that makes any diff) I used to install alarms and RS's up to the 00's and don't have much experience with immobilizers, standard systems no prob. I NEVER had a comeback, heck my 2 current car installs are well over 10 years old, but they didn't have transponders{or issues.} :(