97 jeep gc factory alarm disable?

hello everyone!! I did search on here and found out that if I ground the violet / YELLOW wire in the dfriver door boot it will keep the factory alarm in the disarm state...here is the prob,I had a alarm, keyless,remotestart installed,the factory alarm .blows when I arm(don't like that) and when I remote start it sets off the factory alarm if I dont disarm first(too much to remember,ha ha) I did  ground the violet/yel wire, great no more beep on arm and no alarm when I remote start,only prob is when I arm(lock the doors w/ transmitter) the interior lights stay on!!! (arghhhhh)does anyone have an easier solution?? any hel pis GREATLY appreciated.......

5 wire the disarm wire with the out put from ur unit, what unit are u using?Its true, its true!

hey i have the same problem with my jeep, the alarm is screwing everything up and i need to disarm it. does anyone know which wire it is, is it purple with a yellow stripe or yellow with purple stripe?