aux lights with two lighted switches

I have been trying for two days to wire aux lights with two lighted switches. I don't want a single on/off/on switch. I have two switches, diodes, and relays but I can't get it right. I don't always want the aux lights ON while in reverse so I want switch #1 to control the automatic operation of the aux lights when I'm in reverse. I want switch #2 to manually control the aux lights so I can use them as needed regardless on the reverse (+) trigger. How would I modify the above information so I can use the two switches? Switch#1 has a little red dot and switch #2 has a big red button so I won't accidentally leave them on while driving at night.

Thanks,

James

After reading about 15 pages of this forum I think this might be close.