Parking Light problems

Having problem figuring out how to make my parkinglights flash when the siren chrips. my alarm has the parking light output, but ive tried everything imaginable and nothing works, i saw the diagram ( https://www.the12volt.com/images/addlfwo.gif ) for making the lights flash with the siren chrip, but that didnt work too well, the siren signal goes off and on too fast for the lights to gain their full brightness. I cant figure out what the round thing in the diagram is, the one that has the X and L on it, with the x being hooked to pin 30 on a relay, and the L being hooked to the parkinglights. The only thing i could think of is that the thing with the X and L is a flasher unit, tried one from another car, but that didnt help any. Kinda at a loss for now. Although its not really needed, I would just like to get the parking lights to flash with the siren like they're suposta. Other problem i have is the trunk release button and aux button seem to be reversed. if i push the trunk button, aux 1 output triggers, if i push what i assume is the aux button on the 2way remote, the trunk release wire triggers.  My alarm/remote start/keyless entry unit is from Delta   Pro 5005 Combo, which as far as i can tell is the same as the commando pro 5005 combo, other than label differances, and maybe wiring which would explain some things i guess.Any help or info here would be appreciated.

Thanks,

Sam