I've found conflicting wiring info for a 2002 Acura TL on this site (i'm really installing in a 2003 but 2002/2003 should be the same - i hope):
https://www.the12volt.com/installbay/forum_posts.asp?tid=57519&KW
https://www.the12volt.com/installbay/forum_posts.asp?tid=25013&KW
and in my Helm manual - bible for the car.
In particular the Accessories, and Ignition differ from the above links, and neither match the Helms manual. This is what I've got:
Desc..................Wire color Topic 57519.........Topic 25013..................Helms manual
Accessory...................yellow...........yellow.........wht/blk
Accessory2................WHITE/ blk...........n/a.............n/a
Ignition1......................BLACK / YELLOW...........BLACK / YELLOW............blk / YELLOW
Ignition2....................n/a......................WHITE/ black....................yellow
Can the accessory and ignition wires be swapped and remote start still work? I'm leaning towards the Helms info, and if that fails I'll try the others..... I'm sure I'll figure it out when I'm under the dashboard but if anyone has a clue I'd greatly appreciate it. Also I've heard routing the disable wire thru the driver door is a pain. Any slick method to make this procedure easier? Wire grease?
As a side note where exactly is the "OEM alarm disarm" . One post says driver door, the other say secruity module under passenger seat, and I think the helms shows a blue disarm in the mux unit in the door.
Thanks in advance.
"Can the accessory and ignition wires be swapped and remote start still work?"
NO! If apply the same method on other car you will get more lights lit up than your Christmas tree at home. So test your wire and do more reading first! To me it seem like you don't understand how to differentiate the difference between the two wire. Anyway, this is how.
You don't have second ignition, only SECOND ACCESSORY.
"I'm sure I'll figure it out when I'm under the dashboard but if anyone has a clue I'd greatly appreciate it. Also I've heard routing the disable wire thru the driver door is a pain. Any slick method to make this procedure easier? Wire grease?
As a side note where exactly is the "OEM alarm disarm" . One post says driver door, the other say secruity module under passenger seat, and I think the helms shows a blue disarm in the mux unit in the door."
You don't have to do any of that.
Connect your arm and lock wire together from your aftermarket unit and tap it in to the factory lock wire. Connect your disarm and unlock wire together from your aftermarket unit and connect that to the factory unlock wire. You are done.
Factory Alarm Arm arms with lock
Power Lock BLACK/ blue - passenger fuse box
ACURA, TL, 2003, Power Lock
Located in a blue or gray 22 pin connector in front of the passenger fuse box. Use the key switch in the passenger door to test.
Power Unlock orange - passenger fuse box
Factory Alarm Disarm disarms with unlock
ACURA, TL, 2003, Power Unlock
Located in a blue or gray 22 pin connector in front of the passenger fuse box. Use the key switch in the passenger door to test.
IGNITION
This wire will test with the key switch in the run AND start position, but never in the accessory position.
ACCESSORY
This wire will test with the key switch in the accessory and run position, but never in the start position. Some cars do not have an accessory wire.
SECOND ACCESSORY
Test in the same fashion as the main accessory wire.
DIRECTWIRE™ WIRING INFORMATION - ACURA / TL / 2003 / Remote Start
12 volts white + ignition harness
Starter BLACK/ white + ignition harness
Second Starter N/A
Ignition BLACK / YELLOW + ignition harness
Second Ignition N/A
Third Ignition N/A
Accessory yellow + ignition harness
Second Accessory WHITE/ black + ignition harness
Keysense blue/white - ignition harness
Power Lock BLACK/ blue - passenger fuse box
Notes: Located in a blue or gray 22 pin connector in front of the passenger fuse box. Use the key switch in the passenger door to test.
Power Unlock orange - passenger fuse box
Notes: Located in a blue or gray 22 pin connector in front of the passenger fuse box. Use the key switch in the passenger door to test.
Lock Motor WHITE/ red 5wi 18 pin grn plug, driver fuse box
Unlock Motor yellow 5wi 18 pin grn plug, driver fuse box
Parking Lights+ RED / black + 4 pin grn plug top of pass. fuse box
Parking Lights- RED / yellow - headlight switch
Hazards same as turn signals
Turn Signal(L) GREEN/ blue + steering column
Turn Signal(R) GREEN/ YELLOW + steering column
Reverse Light GREEN/ black + 2 pin brn plug below pass. fuse box
Door Trigger BLACK/ white - 4 pin grn plug top of pass. fuse box
Dome Supervision use door trigger
Trunk/Hatch Pin blue/green - 18 pin gry plg left of dri. fuse box
Hood Pin yellow - lt. blue plug below pass. fuse box
Trunk/Hatch Release WHITE/ red + passenger MUX module
Notes: The passenger MUX module is located behind the glove box.
Power Sliding Door N/A
Factory Alarm Arm arms with lock
Factory Alarm Disarm disarms with unlock
Disarm No Unlock BLACK/ red to blue - driver door key cylinder in door
Tachometer blue ac tach test connector
Notes: The tach test connector is a 2 pin connector near the air intake on the driver side shock tower.
Wait to start N/A
Brake Wire WHITE/ black + brake pedal switch
Parking Brake GREEN/ red - lt. blue plug below pass. fuse box
Horn Trigger lt. GREEN/ blue - steering column
Memory Seat 1 N/A
Memory Seat 2 N/A
Memory Seat 3 N/A
Interface Module: Category:
Immobilizer Bypass Required:
Yes Type:
Transponder
Part #: 556HW
Alternate Part1 #: 556UW
Alternate Part2 #: 555H
Alternate Part3 #: 555U
Alternate Part4 #: DesignTech 20402
Alternate Part5 #: DesignTech 29402
Notes:
This wiring information is being provided free of charge on an "as is" basis, without any representation or warranty. It is your responsibility to verify any circuit before interfacing with it using a digital multimeter.
Directed electronics, Inc. assumes no responsibility with regards to the accuracy or currency of this information. Proper installation in every case is and remains the responsibility of the installer. DEI assumes no liability or responsibility resulting from improper installation, even in reliance upon this information.
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Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it.

I am glad that I was able to help you out. Nothing is more easier to do when you fully understand the ideas behind something. My suggestion to the weekend installer and DIY is that make sure you find all the necessary wire require for the remote starter first before ever making a single connection to the vehicle. Trust me on this! You will thank me later.
For DEI support, you won't have any unless this is your fully time hobby. This is probably one of the best place if you ever get stuck and need help.
This maybe of use to you.
Valet DEI 561 install manual
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Well the install is all done, probably 20hrs of work. Not sure it was worth it. Immobizer 556h installed great and even got the anti-grind relay working. Tweaked crank time to 1.2 sec and the motor starts fine w/ a little extra. Didn't get the tach wire installed, need a right angle drill to do the job right. Wasn't documented anywhere but anyone wondering, used the Orange "200ma accessory turn on" to wire to the immobizer.