96 Honda Accord Remote Starter

Hi there, I installed a BOA remote starter w/keyless entry (model 265B) in a friends 96 Honda Accord and Im having no luck with it.  This was my first remote starter install and I only attempted it because they claimed it was an EASY install.  Im not a beginner, the only thing is the power door locks got me all confused because when I was testing the door lock switch it wasn't matching up to any of the 8 examples i had unless I was testing it wrong.  Before I go any further let me just say there are 2 harness with this system 1 for the door locks and the other for the starter.  I got the starter hooked up, and left the door lock harness unplugged.  According to the manual I synchronized the remote the correct way, the parking lights flashed twice when i held the PROG button and according to the manual thats ALL you have to do to synchronize the remote.  But when i press the start button it didnt do ANYTHING. When I tested the Door lock switch there were3 wires, 2 black and 1 orange. both black wires test @ 4.9V and fluctuated up to 9V when the door lock was switched to lock or unlock 1 wire did it for unlock, the other for lock. The BOA website says to tap into the BLACK/ white and blue/white .. i couldnt find either of these wires, and the only black with a white stripe wire i found never had voltage when i tested it. Any help is appreciated. Is it possible the remote starter wont work unless the door lock harness it connected? This car does not have a factory alarm or keyless entry.

12volts                            white (50A)                          +   ignition harness

Starter                             BLACK/ white                         +   ignition harness Second Starter             N/A       Ignition                           BLACK / YELLOW                        +   ignition harness Second Ignition            N/A       Third Ignition                N/A       Accessory                     yellow                                    +   ignition harness Second Accessory     WHITE/ black (not required)   +   ignition harness Keysense                     blue/white                              -   ignition harness Power Lock                  BLACK/ white                           -   gry conn. above fuse box in blu tapePower Unlock              orange                                   -   gry conn. above fuse box in blu tapeLock Motor                   WHITE/ red                            5wi  keyless module under driver seat Unlock Motor               yellow                                 5wi  keyless module under driver seat Parking Lights  +           RED / black                              +   blue plug fuse box Notes for this item : Also a male blade terminal is available in the fusebox DKP.Parking Lights  -           N/A       Hazards  same as turn signal wires       Turn Signal(L)              GREEN/ blue   +   steering column Turn Signal(R)              GREEN/ YELLOW   +   steering column Reverse Light               GREEN/ black   +   driver kick, harness to rear Door Trigger                 BLACK/ white   -   gray plug right of column Dome Supervision       use door trigger wire       Trunk/Hatch Pin                 orange   -   gray plug right of column Hood Pin                          yellow/red   -   security ctrl unit under driver seatTrunk/Hatch Release           N/A       Power Sliding Door              N/A       Factory Alarm Arm              factory remote only       Factory Alarm Disarm       factory remote only       Disarm No Unlock            factory remote only       Tachometer                           blue          ac       distributor Wait to start                           N/A       Brake Wire                           GREEN / WHITE                      +   brake pedal switch Parking Brake                  GREEN/ red or GREEN / WHITE   -   parking brake switch Horn Trigger                    blu/red or grn/blu                   -   steering column Memory Seat 1  N/A       Memory Seat 2  N/A       Memory Seat 3  N/A      

the BLACK/ white and orange wires should be in the grey connector above the fusebox, if this helps it usually has blue tape around the harness