2000 windstar remote start

i installed ct 3100 prostart remote starter into a  '99 windstar.i would like to know which wire to use to turn the radio off when you turnthe vehicle off with the remote. the radio nomally stays on after the ignitionis turned off until you open the door. is this in the ignition or radio? what color and where is this wire. what type of trigger - or +.lastly i cannot find the wire that triggers the parking lights it isn't the one noted on the diagram page.  what color and where is this wire located? the headlight switch is easily accessable.the remote works fine otherwise.   thanks brokecam