disable door solenoid when alarm is activ

Yes.

Okay, where do I connect the input/ output wires?

Across each solenoid's power feed. Frank, I told you so.

So it dosnt matter what ones input or output because either way the switch will be open or closed? Current will flow both ways?

Are you sure 10 Amp will be enough? I'm going to be installing probably a 30 amp self resetting fuse/breaker on the wire going from my battery for my poppers. They are rated for 50 lbs and draw alot of current and my interior lights always dimmed wen I had the power wire tapped from my wire harness when I popped my doors. And I'm using 20-30 amp relays to convert my neg aux pulse. Also is a dual coil latching relay something I could find at a install shop or auto parts store? And do I need a dual coil because I have seperate arm disarm wires? Thanks so much for explaine it to me so well and the diagram I'm stil learning an I appreciate the help!

That's what worries me and I've already told you to browse Mouser and Farnell. Easy answer use one of these relays as an SPDT as in the diagram then instead of running the power through, run your aux triggers through then current draw (200mA) won't be a problem. Note the diagram shows a relay with TWO switches. I've modified it so instead of breaking power or ground, you're now breaking the two (one for each side) aux wires from the R/S to the relays.

Here's the diagram:- 311_latch.bmp

Mouser Part #:     653-G2RL-2-DC12 Manufacturer Part #:     G2RL-2-DC12 Manufacturer:      Omron Electronics

So the pink and blue colored wires are for the 2 aux outputs?theirfore I would only need one relay for the two doors? And I would Inturrupt the ground pulse before I convert it to positive pulse? Also I was wondering if I could find a latching relay at a parts store cause I would rather that then order it from the Internet and have to wait lol Also what does R/S stand for? Lol

Twin coil DPDT 12VDC latching relay. And no unless it was an electronic parts store. Yes to the aux. And yes to interrupting the ground pulse. And yes to only one required. R/S = Remote start.