dei remote programming?

Ive tried the auto learn function on the avital 2100 but the avistart 3000 is a 4 button transmitter and the 820031 is a 3 button 4 channel . Its got me all confuzled because i can program the lock/unlock on the avital 2100 to any one of the four channels ( ie. i can program button 1+2 to lock/unlock or just button 1,2 or 3) but its like all the other channels wont work and same with the avistart 3000 i can program it to remotestart on any one channel but no other channels want to work???F.B.S.S air ride is the only way to roll

Anyone? Anything? I now KNOW im doing something wrong because i cant get any DEI Remotes to do anything but arm/disarm on DEI alarms and remote start on DEI remote starts.......This is what im doing (On the bench Currently with a 550ESP and a 3 button transmitter ) Red-Power Black & BLACK/ White-Ground  now i ground the green -ve door pin Jumper form +12v-Yellow Ign. on Ribbon press valet switch release press HOLD transmit Channel 1 Arm/disarm/panic.... release valet switch take jumper off of ign. and door pin from ground.... door pin back to ground and jumper on IGN. press valet switch release press release(2X) press HOLD transmit Channel 2 Silent mode/Remote valet/trunk....release valet switch jumper from ign. and door pin from ground... door pin back on ground jumper back on IGN. press release press release press release (3X) press HOLD transmit channel 3 Remote start...release valet remove jumper and door pin...Push button1  Arm/Lock press again Disarm/Unlock...  Press button 2 nothing... press button 3 nothing... Try all buttons in different combinations and still nothing... Repeat all steps 5X still Nothing WHAT am i doing wrong??F.B.S.S air ride is the only way to roll