1998 jeep wrangler remote start

I am trying to install a IC Dynamics Model RS 111-4500 remote start system into a 1998 jeep Wrangler. The instructions are HORRIBLE! Plus the 6 pin starter harness can be connected upside-down and right side up..however the control box is not labeled top or bottom. So which way is up? So far I have been able to only get it to crank, and it will crank until the battery dies without starting the jeep. There is nothing wrong with the jeep, it starts and runs fine with the key. The horn doesn't beep when activated by the remote starter, the parking lights don't work unless they key is on, even then, they are dim and the dash lights cut out every time the parking lights blink. On the 6 pin connector, Pin 1 and 2 are power wires, connected to battery for constant 12 volts. Pin 3 is the second ignition wire..Does a jeep even have a second ignition wire?...Not connected. Pin 4 is the accessory wire, which is tapped into the blk/orange wire from the key switch harness in order to power the heating system Pin 5 is the ignition output wire and is connected to the blue wire at the start switch harness Pin 6 is the starter wire, I have that connected to the starter wire, which is the yellow wire from the ignition switch harness. On the 20 pin connector: Pin 1 is the brake input, connected to the brake input wire at the brake switch, forgot what color. It shows battery voltage when brake pedal is pressed Pin 2 is the tach input, that's not connected right now. Pin 3 is aux output, not connected pin 4 dome lights, I have that connected straight to the dome light wire, shows battery voltage when key is on, when grounded, turns on the dome lights Pin 5 is ties into Pin 5 of the starter harness and is connected to the blue ignition wire Pin 6 is not used Pin 7 not used pin 8 Not used Pin 9 is ground, connected to a good ground with less then .1 ohm Pin 10 is connected to pin 1 & 2 of the 6 pin starter harness and is connected directly to the battery pin 11 not used pin 12 not used pin13 hood pin, connected to the hood switch and seems to work as stated as when hood is open, remote start unit does nothing pin 14 is anti-grind protection. My jeep is an automatic and will only start in park, so it's not connected pin 15 factory alrm disarm, no factory alarm system. not used pin 16 factory alarm rearm, not used pin 17 audible status output. Not used pin 18 Aux output, not used pin 19 Parking light output, connected to the parking light output lead on the parking light/ headlamp switch. Does not work correctly, parking lights blink only when key is on, when they do blink, dash lights go dim. only does this with remote start, when activated normaly through headlamp, hazard or turn signal switches, works as designed. Pin 20 horn output. I have this connected to the lead at the steering wheel to activate the horn, however, horn does not work when activated by the remote starter. Perhaps I tapped into the wrong lead. This kit is very difficult to install as the directions are very poor. Plus I do not have a detailed wiring diagram for my jeep, only the diagrams provided in my haynes manual..which do not identify the locations of the components listed nor the locations of the connections. Plus it does not breakdown the outputs of the connections and state their function. In order to get this far, I had to sit there with a multimeter checking continuity and power if each wire in order to determine it's function. Not a fun job. I am hoping someone here can help me identify the wires and their purpose so that I can install this friggan remote starter. It's very cold in the morning and I hate having to sit in my jeep until it's warm just so some dirty thief doesn't drive off with it. So who has installed one of these things in a jeep before? And how did you get it to work right?

It's a black key, not the transponder key. I even stuck the key in the ignition and hadthe same results.

Pin 14 would go to one side of the relay coil. The other side of the relay coil and #87a would go to the key-side of starter wire. The starter-side of the starter wire and Pin 6 would go to #30 of the relay.Ideal - cmon dude, add to topics in a useful manner, not stuff that is obvious.

Story - Phzzzt! Hey, what happened?! ... Isn't it obvious?

Moral - Never dismiss the obvious.