LOL! Tell me about the varied advice!! Recently on mp3car I've had a... er...
battle with someone re that issue. He insists that paralleled batteries WHEN CHARGING must be matched. Now despite someone else pointing out that in a car, no batteries will ever be matched when there are not co-located and do not share a symmetrical (and diagonal) +ve & -ve power path, he still persists. But he also insists that two batteries when paralleled see different voltages which not only defeats his own "matching" arguments, but also defies basic electrical theory (ie, parallel devices have the SAME voltage).
There are 2 types of battery isolator - ignoring diode and MOSFET isolators which aren't even worth mentioning - other than their avoidance (except for certain rare requirements but at the expense of battery life) - namely being the common commercial offering of voltage sensing aka smart isolators, or an alternator or charge-light controlled isolator.
I use the latter since it's cheap (merely a relay of your choosing), I have a charge light, and I'm not as gullible as other charge-lighters that think voltage sensing is somehow superior (in fact they are almost always inferior in behavior), I am able to find and attach to the charge light circuit, and I hate spending an extra $50 - $400 when it isn't required.
Anyhow, the
basic charge light controlled isolator is only connected when the charge light is not illuminated.
The voltage sensing types almost always have a turn-on delay after charging commences (eg, after the voltage exceeds 13.5V etc) and usually don't disconnect until some time after charging ceases (that can be hours depending on battery surface charge).
But no isolator should connect with mere ignition unless it's intended to parallel the batteries for cranking. But they should disconnect if the engine stalls - ie, no longer charging - noting what I said earlier about the different turn-off delays.
However some use the ACC or IGN to control their isolator (relay) which is better than permanent paralleling - just don't forget to turn off the IGN or ACC!
The main feature with those is that at least with IGN/ACC off, the relay/isolator is off and hence the batteries are isolated, and that's what we want wrt to not having long-term paralleling of batteries.
Note too the situation I am talking about. I am NOT talking about paralleling batteries permanently or long term to supply a load.
I am talking about paralleling batteries that probably have different loads connected AND are ONLY paralleled when charging (and maybe on select occasions for extra reserve - eg, cranking, winching, etc) and do not share location nor balanced charge/discharge paths.
The number of times people choose to argue with me yet they are referring to long-term connected balanced systems....!!!!
As to sites that do not understand the difference, or fail to point out such differences...

But many make a fortune from misinformation, so why not battery & accessory suppliers?