If your STRICTLY installing alarms, you don't need to worry about the ignition 1,2,3 etc. You only need those when you get into remote starters. For an alarm you always want to tap into the main ignition 1 wire. Depending on the alarm, connecting the ignition wire has a few purposes:
1. Ignition Controlled Lock/Unlock - Ignition on, locks lock. Ignition off, locks unlock
2. Starter kill. If the alarm is armed and it sees the ignition come on, it activates the starter kill relay making the car unstartable.
3. Some alarms double the function and use it as a trigger as well so should the thief somehow get that far without the alarm going off, it will go off when the ignition is turned on.
4. Also some alarms once it sees power on the ignition wire, the alarm basically goes dead so that you can't be using the functions on the remote control while the car is on.
There may be some other uses, but I would say that is the main purposes of connecting the ignition wire on an alarm system.
In a car, at the ignition switch you will often find multiple ignition wires and accessory wires. Basically instead of running a single ignition wire, they run a few seperate ones. This allows them to run a few smaller gauge wires rather than 1 8 gauge ignition wire or something like that carrying a lot of power. Also they are usually fused seperately meaning should one blow the others should stay powered up. The ignition wires fire things up like the ignition system itself, computers, transmission controllers, etc. There is no set in stone purposes for multiple ignition wires every manufacturer uses them for different things. The accessory wires (not used for alarms) commonly power up things like the radio, a/c, power windows, etc.
By the way what kind of information are you using for wiring diagrams and specific car info? That really is the most important tool available today for installers. The information will likely tell you when your going to need a relay, resistor (and it's value), diode, etc. Not that you should rely 100% on the information either you still need to confirm everything yourself. The car security section on this site gives a good overview of resistors, etc and when to use them.
There isn't a lot to know about alarms. If you know the basics of 12volt electricity and the basics of the components (relays etc), then alarms are pretty easy to figure out. Plenty of info available on the net just search and read. Good luck,
Mike