Need to slow dome activation

When I had the crimestopper dome light wire hook directly to the front dome lamp\door pin circuit it worked just as it should: Disarm OEM alarm, then Unlock Doors, then turn on dome light.

It's like the adding the relays somehow sped up the dome lamp activation. This may not make any sense to you guys in the know, but I think that the relays that I added were just putting a much stronger\cleaner ground signal on the dome lamp circuits then when the crimestopper was directly grounding those same circuits.  It also had nothing to do with the newly added rear dome lamp circuit, I tapped into that circuit at the rear dome lamp switch on the center console. After studying the wiring diagram noticed  the OEM alarm and door switches were wired before the console switch with I diode isolating them. The dome lamps are after the console switch. So when grounding the circuit from the console switch only the lamps were getting ground and the signal was stopped at the factory diode isolating it from the OEM alarm so that you could turn on the rear lights with the alarm set.  They didn't use this setup in the front because the front dome lamp and switch are in the same unit with the front door pins only activating the timer in that unit.

So enough rambling, how did I fix the problem.  As suggested above I connected the crimestopper dome lamp wire to the OEM disarm wire.  I did use a diode but not were you guys thought that I would need it.  I had to add a diode, but it's to prevent activating the newly added relays from being grounded when unlocking the door with the key, as the micro switch in the door lock was grounding the circuit and activating the dome lamps while the key was in the unlock position.  I didn't have to add a diode were subjected because the crimestopper dome lamp wire and the factory dome lamp circuits are not connected to each other. The crimestopper is just connected the the new relays that are connected to the dome lamp circuit so its is not possible to open the doors and disarm the OEM alarm.

Sorry for the long post and thanks for all the suggestions.

dualsport, see the link below for a crude diagram of what we are talking about. The items highlighted in pink were added for this project\non factory. It would have worked great if I could have just added a diode like the one from the factory on the rear dome lamp circuit.  The diagram doesn't show this but there are two other lamps on each circuit that are installed in the doors. To add a diode that did the same job as the factory diode would have required a lot of rewiring, A.K.A work!  Before I added the dome lamp relays and connected the dome lamp wire to the OEM disarm wire, the OEM alarm was disarmed\armed whenever the car unlocked\unlocked. This was accomplished by the crimestopper locking and unlocking the central locking system on the trunk lock circuit. It is still armed in the same way, via the trunk lock circuit.

http://www.vanpeters.com/benz/12volt.jpg

I definitely have respect for you guys that do this for a living. I think its fun coming up with things to do on my own car. I have a good understanding of how this car is designed\wired. I could not imagine having to go from one car to the other, all designed by different companies and such drastically different in there setup.

Thanks