adding a diode to a relay

I've read the page about installing a normally closed starter kill relay. When adding a diode it shows the anode (striped side) connecting to the 86 terminal and cathode to 85. In the installation manual that came with my remote car starter is says, "To activate the coil on this type of relay, make sure that the +12 volts trigger is on the same terminal of the relay as the anode (+ or non striped side) side of the quenching/suppression diode, and that the negative trigger is on the same terminal of the relay as the cathode (- or striped side) of the quenching/ suppression diode." Is it me or does that not make sense? Can someone please verify this. I don't want to install it wrong.

Thanks. So just to be clear, I can split the key side of the starter wire to go to 86 and 87a?

Correct

Thanks a lot! I also found this post. https://www.the12volt.com/installbay/forum_posts.asp~TID~86348~PN~1~TPN~1 Someone posted the exact quote that's in my installation manual and also confirmed that the information was backwards. For anyone who's interested. This is for a Prostart remote car starter, model CT-3471