carvox cx990 starter

ok guys i need help.

I've installed remote starters before, but never with the starter kill relay relay. I have a carvox cx990. When i first wired it, it worked fine except that i got a grinding noise from the starter. So i researcged to see what my problems could be. Some say the might be a sensor on the starter kill relay. I wired everything which includes - tach wire, constant twelve volts, starter , and ignition wires.

So i wired the started kill relay but im kind of lost. the carvox has 2 ignition wires while my car has one ignition wire. I have a 99 mitsubishi galant. i cut the starte wire and wired it to the 87 (green) to motor side and 30 (green) to ignition side. the car starts just fine with the key. I also wired the orange wire (orange) to the alarm output to create a ground or what not. but i dont know whe to wire the rest of this thing. Because i have 2 ignition wires (pinks) hanging that are not wired right now. theres a yellow wire on the relay (86) that states that it must be wired to the ignitiion. i wired one of the ignition wires from the starter but nothing is happening. Can someone send me their setup for a carvox 990 if anyone has installed these before. i dont even know where to wire the starter wire from the starter unit if  theres no place to wire it or am i missing something.

starter kill setup

85 - ground when armed from carvox (-)

Ok...i was able to wire the kill switch on the and it worked, it disabled the key from starting the car when armed. But i need some strong help. I think the started Unit is really messed up. I have to wire the starter backwards on two wires for it to start the car. Let me explain,

 car wires: Yellow and black (starter)

                    Blue and red (constant 12v)

                    Black and white (ignition)

Starter Unit: Red (constant 12v)

                      purple (starter)

                      2 pink wires (igtion)

                      orange (accessory)

         I've tried wiring the starter to the corrssponding wire on the car but nothing happens, the engine wont even turn.    But if i wire the purple to the white and black (car ignition) and pink to yellow and black (car starter) it turns and everything. the car starts. Oh and yes i have the tach wires and the other wires hooked up. but then theres a grindig noise coming from the starter. Its basically running th starter when the starter is supposed to turn of once the car is on. So yes there is that grinding noise. I tried wiring the kill switch but still nothing. same grinding noise and everything. matter of fact it burned out my starter and had to purchase a new one. The brain knows its on since it shows the animation of exhaaust coming out the car. at least thats what im assuming.

        But this is  how i wired the kill switch...30 motor side 87a key side (both green wires), but i also wire the starter unit ignition with a butt connector to the 30 to the starter on the car (the starter is cut in half).  Can someone explain to me exactly what im doing wrong at this point or is it the unit.