This is the write up I followed to install the viper and db3 of course I rechecked with my wiring diagrams and it's the same the relay I was asking about was the 8617 at the bottom of this write up. Btw thanks kreg 357 you been a great help.
2002 Silverado with Viper 5806 and DB-ALL2 flashed with 4.02 GM5 Ver 3.12.106a firmware.
Assumptions : Gasoline engine, factory door locks, going with D2D between Viper & DB-ALL2.
There is no need for the 451M door lock module, the DB-ALL2 will handle the locks and alarm via it's connection to the J1850
Data wire at the OBD2 connector.
          Pin Color          Description     Destination
MH   1 Red      (+)12VDC Constant Input      Red  (+)  @ ignition harness
MH   2 Black             (-) Chassis Ground      Chassis Ground
MH   3 Brown            (+) Siren Output       Viper siren
MH   4 WHITE/ Brown     Parking light isolation        Not Used
MH   5 White             Parking light output BCM Gray Connector, Brown wire, pin 6 (+)     * Set jumper to (+)
MH   6 Orange          (-)500mA Ground when armed         Not used
DL   1 Blue (-)500mA Unlock output            Not used - handled via D2D
DL   2 EMPTY 
DL   3 Green (-)500mA Lock output Not used - handled via D2D
RS   1 NC 
RS   2 RED / Black   (+) Fused 12V acc/start input          RED / White  (+) @ ignition harness
RS   3 Pink/Black  (+) Flex relay input 87a key side     Not used
RS   4 Pink/White  (+) Ignition 2/flex relay output         White (+) @ ignition harness
RS   5 Red   (+) Fused 12V Ignition 1 Input      Red  (+) @ ignition harness
RS   6 Green   (+) Starter Input (key side)       Yellow (+) @ ignition harness     cut wire
RS   7 Violet   (+)Start output (car side)           Yellow (+) @ ignition harness     cut wire
RS   8 Orange       (+) Accessory output          Orange (+) @ ignition harness
RS   9 RED / White  (+) Fused 12V Ignition 2     RED / White  (+) @ ignition harness
RS  10 Pink  (+) Ignition 1 Input/output  Pink (+) @ ignition harness
AST   1 Pink/White   (-) 200mA Ignition 2/flex Output           not used
AST   2 Blue/White   (-) 200mA 2nd Status/rear defog output          not used
AST   3 RED / White    (-) 200mA trunk release output not used
AST   4 BLACK / YELLOW   (-) 200mA dome light output              not used
AST   5 Dark Blue    (-) 200mA status output           Not used - handled via D2D
AST   6 WHITE/ Black   (-) 200mA AUX 3 output        not used
AST   7 WHITE/ Violet   (-) 200mA AUX 1 output        not used
AST   8 ORANGE / Black   (-) 200mA AUX 4 output      not used
AST   9 Gray (-) Hood pin input (NC or NO)             to kit supplied hood pin
AST   10 Blue (-) trunk pin/instant trigger input (NC or NO)      not used
AST   11 WHITE/ Blue   Activation Input         not used
AST   12 Violet/White   Tachometer input                 Not used - handled via D2D
AST   13 BLACK/ White   (-) neutral safety/parking brake input            Not used - handled via D2D ( E-Brake ? )
AST   14 GREEN/ Black   (-) 200mA Factory alarm disarm output       Not used - handled via D2D
AST   15 Green (-) Door input        Not used - handled via D2D
AST   16 BROWN / Black   (-) 200mA horn honk output optional ( already have Viper siren )
AST   17 Pink (-) 200mA Ignition 1 output     not used
AST   18 Violet (+) Door input           not used
AST   19 Violet/Black   (-) 200mA AUX 2 output      not used
AST   20 Brown (+) Brake shutdown input    White (+)  @ brake pedal switch
AST   21 Violet / YELLOW   (-) 200mA starter output    not used
AST   22 Gray/Black   (-) Diesel wait to start input not used
AST   23 Orange (-) 200mA accessory output       to extra relay Pin 85 ( for Brown ACC2 wire )
AST   24 GREEN / WHITE   (-) 200mA factory alarm arm output Not used - handled via D2D
DB-ALL2
D2D harness to Viper
Blue 14 Pin Plug
Pin 2 Violet / YELLOW to OBD2 Pin 2 Violet
Red 12 Pin Plug
Pin 1 BLACK/ White to Tan (-)  @ BCM, purple plug, pin B4
Pins 8 & 9 to Yellow Passlock2 wire at steering column harness
Black 10 Pin Plug
Pin 8 Violet to Viper     RS   Pin 7  thick Violet (+) Start output
Pin 9 Pink to Viper       RS   Pin 10  thick Pink  (+) Ignition 1 Input/output 
Extra relay ( 8617 ) for ACC2 :
Pin 85 to Viper    AST   Pin 23 Orange (-) 200mA accessory output
Pin 86 and 87 to Red  (+) @ ignition harness through 25 amp fuse
Pin 30 to Brown ACC2 @ ignition harness
Pin 87a not used
Mr.562