picking the relay i need

Hello all.

I am looking for a mechanical latching relay exactly like the one shown in the diagram listed on this site ( https://www.the12volt.com/relays/page5.asp#sppbdl ). I finally found a webiste that looks pretty promissing as far as selling one that I need because they have over 300 different latching relays listed on their site. My problem now is that I don't know which one of these relays they have lsited is what I need. I don't know much about reading the numbers and what-not listed in the desription areas for relays to know if I'm buying the one that I need. If anyone could help me pick out one that is exaclty like, or very similar to, the mechanical latching relay I referenced earlier I would be very very grateful. Here is a link to the site where I have found all these latching relays http://www.alliedelec.com/Search/SearchResults.aspx?Ntk=Primary&Ntt=latching+relay&No=0&N=0&sid=11F02970FFF8

Thanks in advance!

To know when it is locked or unlockled I plan to drill a small hole in the trim that goes around my tailgate handle and it will serve as a little window to a small flat slide that I am going to attach to the actuator. The little slide will have two colors; red and green. red will be on one half and green on the other. The small flat slide will move back and forth with the movement of the actuator. When it is unlocked you will be able to see the green part of the slide through the window and when it's locked you will see the red part.

It should stay locked until I push the trunk release button again. I have no worries about the trunk release button being accidentally pushed and hence accidentally locking or unlocking the tailgate because in order to activate the trunk release impulse you have to hold the door unlock button down for 4 seconds. I doubt it will ever be accidentally depressed for 4 seconds straight. The remote starter unit I have BTW is the Design-Tech Ready Remote Deluxe  #23927

Let me find another source for a supplier.

Awesome! Hey thanks so much! You have no idea how frustrating its been to find one of these things.

hmmm......funny ive never seen this diagram before. and i'd like to know how it would work because i dont think it can. ive never seen a latching relay that works like that. a single coil latching relay works by energizing the coil and then the load contacts become latched. another pulse on one of the coil contacts cant unlatch it. in order to unlatch, the coil has to be energized in the opposite polarity it was energized with to latch it and then it will unlatch. sorta like how alot of alarm units will have low current door lock outputs that flip-flop polarity. the coil polarity on one of these has to be flip-flopped back and forth to make the load contacts latch and release. of course there are dual coil latching relays.....but those have 3 pins to activate the coils. a center pin for a common and then two outside pins. the outside pins recieve a pulse of the opposite polarity of the center pin to make the load contacts release or latch depending on which pin was pulsed activating its corresponding coil. below is a diagram of what im trying to say.

with 12v on the center pin, if you pulse one of the outer pins with a negative pulse the contacts will latch until the opposite outside pin is pulsed with a negative, unlatching the contacts until the opposite pin that unlatched the relay is pulsed again, which in turn will latch the contacts once more.

and again as i stated before......a single coil latching relay has to have the polarity reversed back and forth to latch and unlatch.

so......my question is.....how does that diagram work? is there a single coil latching relay that does what the one in the diagram is described as doing? if so I sure would like to have the part number for that relay. ?? anybody?.....all you old schoolers?....moderators?....the12volt? i would like to know where i can get one of those relays too.