How To Activate Heated Seats From Remote Starter?

Hello! I'm just trying to figure out how to activate a switch to turn on heated seats, steering wheel, defroster. I read some forums talking about pulses etc. But I don't know if that'd work for me. For example my rear seat switch includes the module as well. It has a connector with 5 wires. Wire 5 has power all the time. Wire 1 only gets constant 12 volts when I press the heat button. For now I used a 5th relay output from my starter to provide power directly to pin 1. This way the heated seats start heating when the car is started with a remote. However I basically bypassed the switch and the module. Is there any way to wire it so that the actual button is activated, instead of providing direct current?

Year make and model?

BMW X5 2002, 3.0l I have access to the wiring diagrams but they don't include diagrams of how boards are soldered I'm not sure if I'm supposed to solder a wire from a remote starter somewhere on the board to activate the switch?

Directechs has the following info. Left Front Heated Seat     Green/Violet     Reverse     Center Console Switch, brown 23 pin plug, pin 1           Right Front Heated Seat     Green/Yellow     Reverse     Center Console Switch, brown 23 pin plug, pin 13     

My bad, in my previous post I didn't specify I was referring to rear heated seats. The information you provided for the front seats is correct. Here's the diagram. Now I know that if I provide 12 volts directly to pin 1 and pin 13, it will start heating the seats. But I was wondering if it's possible to activate the switch itself, to replicate what would happen if I pushed the switch with my finger.