Can't get out of valet mode

Here's a little more info:  When I unplugged the 5-pin harness from the brain, it wouldn't create this error anymore (unlock the doors).  I'm so confused.

And yes, for the previous suggestions, I did have 12v at the yellow wire in the starter kill relay.

Any ideas what could be wrong?

Ok, I think I may have "sort-of" narrowed this down.  When I jiggled the small yellow wire from the 5-pin harness and the larger pink wire from the relay satellite right where both of these are attached to the (same) relay in the relay satellite, the ignition power was cut (with the key in the ignition).  Therefore, the alarm thought the car was shutting off, and tried to unlock the doors (and turn on the dome light).  I turned off the ign-controlled door locks, and it stopped happening, but the domelight still came on.

I replaced that relay from the satellite and the domelight relay (just in case) and had the same problem....so I put them back in.  Can I have a defective relay....or could something else cause this problem?

HI,

Just to add a little more to this...I was able to get the car out of valet mode with the remote.  So that's ok now....still don't know why the valet switch wouldn't work.  Here's 2 other things that have happened though:

1.  When I remotely start the car.....walk up to the car and remotely unlock the doors and the domelight comes on....then enter the car, put the key in the ignition and step on the brake to turn off the remote starter....the domelight stays on for a little longer.  It used to shut off when I hit the brake.

2.  I was driving down the highway with the cruise control on.  When I hit the brake to turn off the cruise, the alarm went off!  Oi!!!

Ok, if anyone has anymore ideas, lemme know