Alarm and RS parking light connection

I have an aftermarket K-9 Classic installed prior and recently bought the Astra 1000rs(Remote Starter).  My 2003 Grand Caravan has (-) outputs for parking lights.  The problem is how do I tie in the remote starters parking light connection to the existing K-9 Classic connection.  I'm assuming the K-9 has a separate relay because the K-9 has a (+) parking light output.  If that's the case how would I interface the remote start connection onto the existing one? Can I just tap right next to the same connection as the K-9 and use diodes?

Thanks

Vehicle Has A Resistored Park Light System.The WHITE/ BROWN Wire Must Be Cut And A relay And Resister Must Be Used. Pin 85 To Ground Pin 86 To The Parking Lite Wire of R / S .Pin 87A Switch Side Of WHITE/ BROWN Wire,Pin 30 BCM Side Of WHITE/ BROWN Wire. Pin 87 To One Side Of A 5.8k Ohm Resistor,The Other Side Of The Resistor To Ground.

Hi

I understand that it does require a relay and resistor, but I'm just not sure how to hook up the remote start wire to it., because the parking light circuit is already connected to the alarm.  I'm afraid that if I tap right in parallel to the alarm connection that when both the alarm and remote start tries to energize the parking lights, I might blow something.

So in a nutshell, how would I hook up the parking lights to the alarm and remote starter?

Thank you

Now my second problem is, if lets say the car was disarmed the parking lights would be constant from the alarm output.  If I remote start while it's disarmed there would be no light flash.  Any thoughts to this?