94 Accord Remote start

Q1 - I've just installed a remote start car alarm into my 94 Honda Accord and it's working just great except it's not working right. when i remote start the car it starts like a dream and will idle for a few secconds befor it turns it's self off.  I'm thinking it has something to do with the tach wire because i didnt want to run another wire through the fire wall i found a blue wire that i thought was it when the car was off it read 0v and when it was on i got a reading of .5v or so i thought that this was kinda low but i was trying it, is this the wrong wire and if it is are there any places i could check for the right one? 

Q2 - another problim i had was finding the dome light wire. for the dome light i was told to look for the 20 pin connector to teh left of the steering column and then find the BLACK/ WHITE/ silver doted wire but unless i'm blind i cant find that i think i've found the connector but the wire is not there. 

Q3 - one last simple thing (i hope) is there a way to connect the lights to the alarm so they flash with the alarm? they flash on lock and unlock but not for the alarm.  thanks for your time

i dont know the name of the manufacture but the unit is a FM-2009 i got it on ebay i've sence found the same unit at http://www.asianwolf.com/2009INFO2.htm i could try to find the tach wire under the hood but i really dont what to put another wire through the fire wall when i knwo that the wire has to come it some where and i duble checked the lights and found that the front come on but i dont know about the back the nabors are starting to get mad at me for testing it... to much noise