That is the manual way... But should you forget....
But it sounds like you have tasted one of the drawbacks with the voltage sensing units.
Not only are different voltage levels desirable (eg, disconnect at 12.8V if NOT charging but maybe 12.0V if charging), but also different delays depending on the reason (cranking, indicator or other "sags").
My MW728 was
oscillating on-off at about 15-30 second intervals with a ~5A load despite the #2 ~60AH battery being fully pre-charged on an 8A charger. (Engine was NOT running/charging.)
But that ceased after a short run - the alternator's 14.4V at
whatever Amps (up to ~75A less ~20A max for the vehicle) presumably blowing away the cobwebs (ie, soft-sulfite) of the 2nd battery.
Hence the advantage of the UIBI (charge-light controlled).
But voltage-sensor delays can be extended to many tens of seconds.
Before the UIBI, I had a "smart" isolator to connect the 2nd battery, but that was a $22 kit with an 80A "latching" relay. (Hence the circuit only drew 4uA except when toggling the relay. Or higher if using the flashing status LED.)
Its voltage is easily changed as per kit instructions - eg for 12 or 24V operation, or as a "high voltage connect" or "low voltage disconnect". [The former being a "smart battery isolator", the latter a "battery protector" to disconnect the load before excessive battery flattening. (Never use 555 timers for that unles they disconnect themselves, and their 10mA draw is ok!)]
I still use that kit as my low-voltage cutout (ie, isolate the load if battery #2 gets too flat), but the front "high-voltage cut-in" is now replaced with a $10 relay (~140A capacity) connected to the alternator charge light terminal.
The point being...?
Oh yes - the kit explains the circuit operation and the various delays. (I shied to it the same way ImAnIdiot shies to my l o n g explanations.) But it should be possible to vary the delays... (The kit is the Oatley Electronics AUD$22
K227 - 12-24V DUAL BATTERY ADAPTER FOR A VEHICLE. Consider a spare 80A latching relay for another AUD$6.50
RL8. NOTE that it is the PCB, components and relay only - not the case nor connectors.)
Alas I've been meaning to re-examine that explanation...
There is also the "cig socket" 10A MW-728 which is available for under $20 here (Australia). (If 10A isn't enough, use it to control a bigger relay. Snip off the cig plug & socket as desired.)
It is based on an LM3900 or similar "quad comparator" or op-amp (distant memories...) and equivalent circuits are not difficult to build (provided you have the circuit). Not that I condone reverse engineering brilliant and successful commercial products (that's why I suggested the Oatley kit), but DIYers might be keen to modify an MW-728 to suit their voltage & delay requirements....
(FYI - for the price of an MW728, it is NOT worth "ripping off" to do it cheaper!)
Anyhow, a manual switch saves you about $250 for a Projecta 100A "smart priority charging"
male-Bovine-dung isolator if bought here in Aus.
Cheaper isolators here are usually $80 upwards. (That's why I used the $22 Oatley kits!!) [Dare I mention a "Redarc" isolator that claims better "battery charging" from its 80A isolator than a straight relay of 140A or higher rating? Yes - that confuses me too - it does NOT include a dc-dc converter - they cost $300 for 20A and $500 for 40A (from other suppliers - and all Aussies know you must have a dc-dc converter to properly charge your second battery. TRUE! - I've read it on Aussie web sites!! {Yes, seemingly unscrupulous
commercial sites.}).]
Selecting a "smart isolator" depends on what you want.
BlueSea include a starter input (to parallel batteries during cranking).
Several offer variable voltages for both connect & disconnect. (There
must be some hysteresis - the MW729 f.ex is typically 11.2V & 12.5V.)
BTW - increase "fixed" voltages with diodes - eg, add a 0.2V Germanium or 0.3V Shottky or 0.6V
normal diode to boost the 11.2V MW728 "cutout" to 11.4, 11.5, 11.8, 11.2+0.6+0.6=) 12.4V etc. Use an output-controlled SPDT relay to short out some or all of those diodes for a 12.5 or 12.7, 12.8, 13.2V etc "cut in" voltage. The diodes are inserted in the ground from the sensor (MW728) and the supply (cig-plug to socket).
So many possibilities - all cheap "building blocks" - albeit with some "simple" electronics (diodes & relays).