adding a switch to aftermarket door locks

This is what I'm describing

Catback, you're wrong, yes 86 and 87 on all relays are fused 12V+ constant BUT the centre tap marked red on your picture should go to ground.

Indeed, it should actually per the diagram if you scrutinize closely it should be connected to something. There fixed

Okay, so this is what I changed from your input...now one question. The alarm blue output is the first one to trigger when the alarm is turned off and the car unlocked. Am I right or am I not seeing this, but if I swap the Blue from the alarm with the Blue/white which is the second trigger, won't the passenger door unlock first, then on the second press the driver door? That's the only thing I think I see from doing that which is the opposite of what you want unless I'm thinking about it wrong.

Oh and I just missed that red wired 12 v to ground? I just measured that and I have 12 volts on that all the time, so why would I want to ground a live 12 volt wire? That one really don't get.

The wire I'm talking about is the one in between the Lock and Unlock connector coming from the alarm. I agree if you look at the picture, taking that 86 red wire off basically cuts the power to the coils. On another note, they really need to get rid of the 50 posts before you can edit...now I have to go back and read the whole thread to fix all the typos. Oh wait, I can't even go back and fix any of that...ahhh...

Okay I just saw my mistake on the third relay...87 has to be powered or nothing will happen when the relay is triggered.

Well I just saw my other mistake on the third relay. I didn't noticed where 87a and 30 where connected. That is important to note, so I'll swap those two wires and then the circuit will work correctly. That's my mistake, but I wanted to point it out because it is important which side gets where. 87a goes to the passenger side 30 goes to the driver side

Okay, I swapped the two wires from 87A and 30. Do let me know if I'm still missing anything. If not, where should the switch be plugged? FYI, for those that haven't read the whole thread, I'm only using these colors because that's what my sockets have.

Okay I think this is will work...also, would it be alright to use an acc for the fused 12 volts on 87? I only want that switch to work when the car is on.