OK I'll try to answer everything, separating the parts about the tach and the remotes:
--------TACH----------
If you haven't hooked up the tach wire and programmed it to the unit, the remote start won't work.
You could go into programming, change from Tach to Voltage sensing, and then after you start the car at least once by key (because it averages your recent cranking times when starting with the key), it'll then work.
I do all those Siennas these days with Crank Averaging with good results, but if you prefer tach it's not a bad idea at all to hook it up.
I use my Power Probe LED test light to test for tach. If you have a digital multimeter, you can set it for AC and test for tach......black meter wire to ground, red to suspected tach wire. It'll show somewhere between 1 and 6 volts AC, and usually will rise if you rev the engine.
A slightly less orthdox method is to simply use the remote starter. The GREEN/ orange tach wire is only an input, not an output, and connecting it to the wrong wire won't hurt anything.
Find your suspected tach wire in the car, make a quick temporary connection with the GREEN/ orange (don't even bother taping or soldering), and try programming tach......if it programs, try the remote start. If it won't program, it's the wrong wire.
Very high up above the gas pedal is a thick wire harness with a whole bunch of BLACK/ orange wires, which all look the same. If you have the engery to test all of them, one of them is tach.
P.S. Even if you're averse to using voltage sensing, it's a great testing/troubleshooting tool. You could use voltage mode for the time being until you get your bypass and ignition wires correct, and leave tach for last.
--------REMOTES------------
OK, the first thing to keep in mind is once you un-program the remotes, you can re-program the buttons to do pretty much anything you want........there's no rule that the Lock button has to be the one to lock the doors.....if for some strange reason you wanted Unlock to be Lock.....#2 to be remote start.....#1 to be lock.........you probably wouldn't want to do that, but you could.
The second part is that Remote Start, and Channel 3 (blue trunk release wire) will always be on the same button. Channel 3 is Channel 3, which is start/trunk..........you can't make one button be for start and Channel 4, not possible.
When you go to program the remotes, you have the following:
Channel 1: Lock
Channel 2: Unlock
Channel 3: Start/Trunk (blue wire)
Channel 4: Defrost (GREEN/ black)
Channel 5: blue/stripe Channel 5 output
Channel 6: blue/stripe Channel 6 output
Channel 7: blue/stripe Channel 7 output
So then....two sliders, rear defrost, but no rear hatch?
I would make button 1 for left slider, button 2 for right slider, and 1 and 2 together for defrost.
-------UNPROGRAMMING REMOTES------
If you have the horn wire hooked up, this makes a ridiculous amount of noise, be forewarned.
You have to go through the procedure twice, once with each transmitter.
1. Ignition on.
2. Press/releas valet button 3 times; you'll hear one horn honk.
3. Press and release again; you'll hear two honks. One more time, you'll hear three honks...........continue doing this until you hear FIVE horn honks.
4. Press button 1 on transmitter; you'll hear a series of honks. Press button one another time, you'll hear a LOUD honk.
5. You've now been kicked out of programming mode, and the remote that's in your hand should also no longer work at all.
6. Turn ignition off, put the second remote in your hand, and repeat steps 1-5 again.
7. You should now have two completely non-funtional remotes. Now it's time to reprogram them to work the way you want.
----------REPROGRAMMING REMOTES-----------
1. Ignition on.
2. Press/release valet 3 times; you'll hear one honk. You're about to program Channel 1, which is Lock.
Press Lock button on first remote; hear one LOUD honk. Press Lock button on second remote, hear one LOUD honk.
3. Press/release valet 1 time; you'll hear two honks. You're now in programming for Channel 2, which is Unlock.
As in the last step, press Unlock on first remote, then Unlock on second remote.
You're probably understanding how the programming goes by now, right? Anyway....
4. Press/release valet 1 time; hear three honks.......programming for Channel 3, Start/Trunk.
Press Start/Trunk button on both remotes.
5. Press/release valet 1 time, hear 4 honks; you're now in Channel 4/Defrost programming.
What do you want to use for Defrost? I'd use Buttons 1 and 2 together.....or you might prefer Lock and Unlock together.
Anyway, press ANY combination of TWO buttons together; this will be how you activate defrost.
6. Press/release valet one time; hear five honks......Channel 5.........you connected the left slider to Channel 5, correct?
OK then, press button number 1 on each remote so that 1 will be your left slider
7. Press/release valet 1 time...........Channel 6........passenger slider, correct?
Press number 2 on each remote; this will be your passenger slider.
8 Press/release valet 1 time.........Channel 7. You have no rear hatch, so therefore nothing at all hooked up to Channel 7, correct?
Well, that's OK.......just press some combination of two buttons on the remote, and program them to Channel 7 anyway.
This way, if sometime in the future you want to use Channel 7 for something else, you don't have to go through all these programming steps again.
9. Ignition off, one LOUD honk, programming should be all done.
10. Test both remotes for proper functions. (Keep in mind that sliding doors won't work if the on/off control switches on the dashboard are not plugged in.)