alarm, 2006 honda civic

Ok so here's what I'm seeing.  If I'm reading it correctly, and it's possible I'm not cause my brain is mush right now, I would take the (-) armed output wire from the Alarm, run that to a switching relay, 85.  Then Run the Gray H2/5 wire from the 530T (both) to the relay 87A.  Is that correct? 

Ok so after reading it for a second, does this mean, Output during activation, that it's when the alarm is disarmed or being disarmed?  if that's the case then it would go to the (-) disarm output right?  Man this one is complicated.  I've got most everything but this on the 530T. 

Now ted wiring that gwa to trigger a relay,  will have that relay activated the entire time the alarm is armed and the car is off! Get where i'm going! The output diode isolated to all the inputs should be sufficcient, but using a relay is not an option here!

Actually it is an option, but  a risky one!

Ok I'm so confused.  So no relay and use a diode?  Is there a specific diode?

You know what, I'm going to finish up the diagram I'm making and then I'll see about getting it up here and then we can make changes.  I'm sure that I have a crap load wrong but I want to confirm what I've done anyway before I do any wiring. 

hey t&t, what do you mean ? the relay will only energize if the ignition is on.

85 - gwr and gwa both diode isolated

Three one amp diodes! I think the part number is 1n4004!

I want to confirm that wiht the idatalink module, I'm not going to need to wire up the door locks right?  That does it all through the module correct?